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EXPECTATIONS

2008-10-02T07:41:00.000-07:00

Why do we expect things from others.....or the people around us? Even we expect a lot from GOD. Expectations are a must in every relation. With time as relation becomes stronger, expectations keeps on increasing and increasing. At a point of time, it start creating problems and the bond weakens. How to handle this?? Saying that don't keep expectations from anybody will be wrong. Everybody expects something from others but don't want others to expect from them.

I always loved people around me expecting from me.I expect from them too and got hurt a lot when they don't fulfill it. I always tried to be SPECIAL or u can say best friend in everybody's(around me) life n i was always ready to do whatever needed to help in each n every way but i was always treated as NORMAL. Still thanks for that. I think its my mistake that i expected that much......They never asked me to do so. They never committed that they will be doing whatever i expect. But i must say that i expected very little from others as compared to my expectations from me to fulfill the expectations of others.

I think i am becoming selfish now....Ya u can say that...I am more concerned about me than others around me..Am i right???i don't know

The life till job, marriage is the easiest one. But still we are unable to handle it properly... unable to fulfill the expectations of people around us...unable to make them happy....Then what will we be doing after completion of this phase. After marriage and in job...so many new relations..so many new expectations....How will we handle all that.....how ???
Are we mature enough to handle these things or still more maturity is to come ??? I don't know..i m totally confused about this...GOD help me please.....

What is happiness ??

2008-09-11T09:47:00.000-07:00

do u have a perfect answer to this ?? Is there anything that anyone can get and can be happy ?? Can i buy or steal happiness ?? The answer is NO.
For me it is a very complex thing to understand. Everybody has got something different that can make him/her happy. N no one can remain happy for a long time. U wish something. if u get that u are happy if u don't u are not happy. If u get and are happy then u wish for something else n again u may or may not be happy. It is not related only with wealth, health, fame etc. These things can bring happiness for a very short duration. A poor person can be much more happier than a rich person. But making others happy is something that will always bring u more and more happiness. Always keeping a positive attitude towards life can help bringing happiness.
Enjoy every moment of your life no matter how long or short it is. Set goals for your life achieve them and enjoy them and go for the next.

Happiness is something that comes from within you. Its the happiness of some other that can make you happy. That someone can be different for different people. So always try to make people around you happy. Happiness always doubles whenever shared.

Always be happy (as i always say :) ) enjoy your present to its fullest. Kyonki kal ho na ho...

What is happiness to you ?? Comments invited...

TEACHING

2008-09-10T07:18:00.001-07:00

Teaching – considered as a sacred profession. Teacher has been given 2^nd position after parents in everybody’s life. Parents give us life, but teachers are the one who tell us how to live it.
A very famous saying, "A good teacher is like a candle - it consumes itself to light the way for others."

Teaching and Learning always go hand in hand. Learning is endless. There is always something to be learned. Everybody has something to teach or rather say we can learn from him/her. A person can’t be a good teacher if he doesn’t learn something from his students. Good teachers consider teaching and learning as two simultaneous processes. You teach something and you learn something at the same time.

A good teacher always tries to use new methods to make learning easy as it is rightly said "If a child can't learn the way we teach, maybe we should teach the way they learn". Some qualities that make a teacher good can be – Patience, Eagerness for learning, Non egoism, Confidence, Positive attitude, Understanding, life long learner etc.

The persons used to teach us our course books, or lecture us in schools and colleges are not the only teachers. Everybody in this world is a teacher, can give us a lesson to learn. Our parents are our First Teachers. We learn the basic skills of living from them. Their hard work, their success, their failures, always makes us learn something. I have learnt a lot from my mom n dad. I always got an inspiration of never losing hope from my dad’s experiences. He always made me do things better and much better. My mom taught me how to survive in your bad times. Thanks mom n dad for teaching me all that.

Time itself is a teacher. It teaches us many lessons. In fact, a person can teach himself. If one can just look into himself, his life, he can get a lot more lessons anybody else can give him.

So friends always just be ready to learn and to teach too. Learn from everybody, ur frnds, ur enemies, ur seniors, ur juniors. (But act upon good ones only :P)

I will also life to reveal one of the suspense from my first post. The person who motivated me to write, improve upon my English is no one other than one of my good friends Vj (as I always call him). Thanks to you too.

Friendship

2008-09-09T06:16:00.001-07:00

Friendship or friends - we start using these words as soon as we start understanding things in our early ages. In play schools, friends are those people around us who shared their toffees or chocolates with us. As life moves on, meaning of these words changes. In our elementary schooling, the person writing our name as the Best Friend, in the paragraph or the essay on MY BEST FRIEND used to be our friend. We used to share our lunch box with that person. Then we enter in our Teen Ages. At that time, horizon of term friendship starts broadening. We start sharing our secrets. We become helping hands for each others. We start attending all family function of each other. After 10th class most of the small town students like me have to move to some other city for senior secondary education. That is the first time we feel alone, far from the family. We start making new friends, start depending on them N we get a new meaning of friendship. Sometimes even we think that our friends are the only persons in this world who care for us. Even some of us start considering them above our family too. Our Best Friends change from time to time. Till 10th it was some other person, after that in a new city somebody else becomes the Best. The person we used to meet daily even a number of times in a day, now we even talk very less. Now we spend aur time, share aur secrets, with somebody else. I met ROBIN in end December, 2003, when I was in 11th staying away from home in Chandigarh. Soon he became my Best friend. We were always seen together, shared every moment of our life. At that time we felt like KINGS and did all sort of masti and pangas we could do. We were partners in most of the mischief. I was able to rely upon him for anything. But now we don’t know much about each other. Don’t talk too much now. Why…. I don’t know. May be we are not that close now.(missing all those days :( )

But I never really understood the real meaning of “Friendship”. Is it just to enjoy with happiness? Or is it more of sharing the sorrows and the pain? Can anybody please help me out making me understand it? My opinion about this always got changed. A lot of things happened in my life that always confused me. The person I consider as my best buddy from my school days just got angry with me because he lost 500 rupees because of me(he says that it was because of me but I don’t think so). Why all these things happen? I don’t know the answer. I always wanted (n tried too) to give my Best to my friends, but I always failed, I don’t know why? Sometimes I am even so much confused that I thought that there is nothing like friendship n all that. It’s just the need that makes somebody our friend. But then again thinking about some of my best friends I just can’t find anything in me that made them my friends and again I m confused.

I have lost some of my best buddies and I m feeling that I am going to lose some more very soon.(but I don’t want that to happen)

I don’t blame or criticize any of my friends. I still consider my friends THE BEST.

CHANGE with TIME

2008-09-08T10:09:00.000-07:00

Change with time - 1 of the greatest laws of nature. Is it for the good or the bad? I think its always a mixture of both - for some people a change is good and the same may be bad for other. Experts say Change is always for the betterment. Then why do people resist to it ? Usually people dont want anybody to change them...but all love changing others according to them. So, Usually people change because somebody wants to change them. Most of the relations (even friendship too) have problems because everybody considers himself or herself as perfect -- "Nothing should be changed in me". But they want the other to change according to them. But all those problems can be solved in a better way by changing yourself instead of other person.Changing the way of thinking about anything is much better then changing the thing itself.

I got changed a lot in my life. The person i used to be till my 10th was totally different from me in my 12th. Then i came in this college JIIT( was not JIITU at that time)...n again a lot of changes took place...some things changed themselves n some were forced to change.

Now again things (people too)are changing..or rather have changed a lot.but i didn't want any change. ..then why are they changing ? I don't know. I feel i m also getting changed. Its not my wish but that is because of ALL changing around me.(I just cant mention the changes). The people just are not able to see(or rather don't want to see) at my end N they may be finding me wrong at der end. but they dont know all this is just because of them....Hope so these changes will bring something GOOD in their and my life

Origin of my blog

2008-09-07T09:50:00.000-07:00

hi...after a lot of encouragement by some good people or rather say a single person, i have finally created my blog..n writing this first one. All my frnds know that my hand is little (ya shayad very :P) tight in ENGLISH..but he always lectures me to improve on it. I guess this will work.

I find it really a nice way to express yourself, your ideas, emotions, thoughts. Sometimes when you don't have anybody close to you..n u wanna share something, this is the best way you can imagine for this. This may help reducing stress and depression>>.
For past few days i m feeling lonely (i think i know the reason,but i can't help). There is always something running in my mind, but i have no one to share with. I find everything being "CHANGED" .....i don't know why and I don't know "Is that for good or bad" ? (will express this change in my next post)

i hope this blogging can help me out and i can be the same YUVI i used to be.

So frnds, get used to tolerate My ENGLISH :P
bbye till next.